It is Wise to Speak Less

Word of the Week - 11

A truly wise person uses few words; a person with understanding is even-tempered.                      Proverbs 17:27 New Living Translation (NLT)

A Prayer for Listening with Love

Dear Heavenly Father,

No matter where I am,Speak-less-so-kids-hear-more-TriParenting.com-1

what time of day,

or what condition I’m in,

You are there to listen.

You do not judge.
You do not blame.
You do not lecture.

You simply love.

And in that love,
I feel heard.
connected.
calm.

There is power in being heard!

Help me to remember that power when my child needs to talk, melt or vent.
Help me to talk less and listen more…
with love,
empathy,
understanding.

And thank you for listening to me…always.

Amen

Spicy Shrimp Pasta

with fresh lime zest

I love recipes that call for zesting lemons, limes or oranges. The fresh scent brings cheer to the kitchen, and the bright flavors add a burst of sunshine to each dish. In this shrimp pasta recipe, I’ve done my best to provide measurements for the ingredients. But the truth is, this is one of those dishes I make a little differently every time. I encourage you to have fun adjusting the flavors to find what makes your taste buds happiest.

Ingredients

3/4 box Angel hair pasta
1 1/2 pounds shrimp
2 TBS olive oil (divided to 1 TBS and 1 TBS)
1 tsp Tony Chachere’s Original Creole Seasoning
1 pod garlic, chopped
½ small onion chopped
4 oz mushrooms chopped
1-2 TBS freshly chopped parsley
1 lime – (1 1/2 TBS lime zest) and (juice of ½ lime)
2 tomatoes, seeded and chopped
Freshly grated Parmesan cheese (optional)

Directions

  1. Shell and devein shrimp. Rinse in cold water and drain.
  2. Toss shrimp in bowl with 1 TBS olive oil, Tony’s Seasoning, lime juice. Let marinate in fridge for about an hour.
  3. Saute’ onion and garlic in 1 TBS olive oil, add mushrooms after about a minute, then saute till wilted.
  4. Add shrimp and marinating juices, stirring frequently.
  5. When shrimp are pink, add parsley. lime zest and tomato. Toss in pan till warm.
  6. Serve over pasta, making sure to generously drizzle liquid from pan on each serving.
  7. Top with freshly grated Parmesan cheese and sprinkling of fresh parsley, if desired.

How Running Makes Me a Healthier Mom

I have yet to meet a mom who doesn’t dream of getting a better night’s sleep.  After all, there are countless reasons a parent’s peaceful night’s rest could be interrupted: soggy diapers, hungry babies, colicky kids, up-chuck, nightmares, thunderstorms, nose bleeds, nagging coughs, wet beds, sleep walking, night terrors… the list goes on. Which makes it even more important for deep, restful sleep to occur during the nights or precious moments that are miraculously interruption-free.

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Without a good night’s rest, I turn into a foggy-headed grizzly bear whose cubs don’t exactly enjoy being around. That’s one of the reasons I began running as a mom. I’d heard exercise improves sleep, and sleep combats Grizzly Bear Syndrome. So I gave it a try. And the results were…well compelling enough to keep me running!

Turns out there are lots of other great health reasons for moms to adopt a regular exercise program. And there’s wonderful research to support why applying our last bits of time and energy to exercising isn’t as ridiculous as it sounds.

Healthy Reasons to Exercise

Here are some health benefits I’ve found being a runner mom and cool research to back up my observations:

1. Running helps me sleep more soundly at night. Which helps me be far more alert, productive, and cheerful the next day.

It appears I’m not alone. This article, National Sleep Foundation Poll Finds Exercise Key to Good Sleep, shows the effects different forms of exercise have on sleep, as well as healthy sleep advice.

2. When I’m consistently running or exercising, my body feels stronger and better able to defend against the lovely germs my kids bring home from their daily encounters with other germ factories.

The Harvard Medical School suggests that routine exercise, can in fact, help boost the immune system. This Harvard Health publication points out other great ways to build your defenses, too.

3. When I run or speed walk, (especially when I don’t overdo it), I seem to have more energy to keep up with my kids and their crazy daily schedules.

In Exercise for Energy: Workouts that Work, Web MD has a fascinating article about how low to moderate exercise actually creates energy in our bodies. What a great reason to get up and get moving!

4. Running helps me burn some of the calories I literally pick up during the day. Whether I’m stealing a french fry off my son’s plate or I’m celebrating a special occasion with a slice of cake, calories add up quickly. While running does not give me license to eat all I want when I want, it does help offset some of the damage.

Runner’s World has a free calculator to determine how many calories are burned during a given run, using time and distance ran, and a person’s weight.

5. And finally, I love the mental boost I get from running. At the end of those days when my To Do list is only half done and nothing seems to have gone as I’d hoped, futility and disappointment can weigh me down. But if I’m able to squeeze in a run, my sense of accomplishment is restored, and I can look to tomorrow with a brighter perspective.

Plus, running is a great stress reliever and endorphin producer. The Mayo Clinic’s Exercise and Stress: Get Moving to Manage Stress confirms this, and it references a number of studies that support the claims.

Not a Runner?

To be fair, running is certainly not the only exercise that has great health benefits. I’ve found similar results in swimming, biking and aerobics, too. And weight training and yoga have even more benefits.

So if running’s not your cup of tea, no worries!

Find an exercise you know you can stick with.
Enlist a few accountability buddies to do it with you.
And check with your doctor to get the “all clear” before you jump in feet first.

Better sleep, lower stress, more energy, a nice calorie burn, and a happier outlook are just a few steps away!

Mouth Watering Crock Pot Roast

The seriously rich flavor of this dish comes from browning the roast first and deglazing the pan. (The crispy brown goodies at the bottom of the pan create a scrumptious roast or gravy). Serve with a warm, crispy bread, so every drop of sauce on the plate has a ride to the tastebuds.

TIP!  To brown roast without sticking to pan, rinse meat then pat dry with paper towels. Put oil in pan and begin to warm. Place roast in pan and jiggle it around while it begins to sear. Once it’s seared, it will not stick. Let it heat do desired brownness.

Ingredients

3 pound pot roast (chuck roast)
2 Tbs olive oil
Kosher salt and pepper to taste
1 10 1/0 oz. can Cream of Mushroom Soup
2 c carrots peeled and cut to 2-3 inch lengths
1 pound Yukon Gold or Red potatoes, scrubbed and cut into large chunks
2 c chopped fresh mushrooms
½ large onion, chopped
3 cloves garlic chopped
2 sprigs rosemary
3 small sprigs thyme
3 sage leaves

(Dried herbs can be substituted for fresh).

Directions

  1. Salt and pepper all sides of roast.
  2. In heavy pan, brown all sides of roast in olive oil.
  3. Line bottom of crock pot with carrots and potatoes, and place roast on top.
  4. Top roast with onion, mushrooms, garlic and fresh herbs.
  5. Deglaze browning pan with ½ cup water, scraping up the dark browned bits. Stir in Cream Of Mushroom soup.
  6. Pour soup mixture over the roast.
  7. Cover crock pot and cook on low for about 8 hours. Beef should be fall-apart tender and delicious.

Word of the Week 10 – Run an Honorable Race

Since we have such a large crowd of men of faith watching us from the grandstands, let us strip off anything that slows us down or holds us back, and especially those sins that wrap themselves so tightly around our feet and trip us up; and let us run with patience the particular race that God has set before us.  Hebrews 12:1 Living Bible (TLB)

A Prayer for Burden-Free Parenting

Heavenly Father, I praise you for the unique race you’ve set before me and for the little (and not so little) eyes that are watching me run. Free me from any burden that threatens to trip me up and slow me down today – a bad attitude, faulty thinking, judgement, lack of self control, ego, fear…. whatever it may be. Pull me from its grip and help me to run a clean, unencumbered race. May each of my steps glorify You. And may others see in me Your love, Your grace and Your mercy. Thank you, Lord! Amen!

Running Helps Me be a More Mindful Mom

One of the biggest secrets to success in parenting is being in tune with your mind and body. We’ve all heard, “When Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.” That’s because our mental and physical state really can have a huge effect on the people around us. For that reason, it’s important that Mom keep tabs on how she’s feeling and how her condition may be impacting her family.

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Being aware of mind and body is also critical in running. Many of the functions in running that can easily be taken for granted (like breathing, posture and mind set) can cause real problems (like injuries and poor performance) if they are out of whack. So, paying attention and making necessary adjustments is an important practice to get into.

The great news is that each time we lace up and escape for a run, we free ourselves to focus solely and completely on the one person we are likely to ignore in a typical day… OURSELVES. In our solitude, we can tune into OUR bodies, analyze OUR thoughts, and intentionally work on areas that need our attention.

Running provides a low distraction training ground to get back in touch with ourselves and be more in sync at home.

As we continue our series on HOW RUNNING MAKES ME A BETTER MOM, let’s take a look at how focusing on breathing, posture and mind set can help us become better runners and better moms.

FOCUS ONE: BREATHING

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Proper breathing can make all the difference in the world when running. I used to go out for a jog and soon find myself huffing and puffing like the Big Bad Wolf, fighting off painful side cramps, and quickly losing energy. Once I learned to pay special attention to my breathing and incorporate a few techniques (like belly breathing instead of chest breathing), running became far more enjoyable and tons easier. (I have a few of my favorite references on my Triathlon Tips, Tools and Training Pinterest Board).

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Breathing plays a big role in parenting, as well, starting with the newborn days. As a new mom, I remember feeling completely stressed out when my first born struggled to fall asleep at bedtime. The more he cried, the more tense I became, until tears started pouring from my eyes, as well.

What I didn’t realize at the time, is that babies can sense their parent’s anxiety, particularly when they are being held. All the wishful thinking in the world will likely not help Baby relax if Mom is a bundle of nerves. I finally learned to be deliberate in my thinking and breathing as I rocked my baby to sleep. While focusing on the quiet room, the softness of Baby’s skin, the blessings of being a mom, and the gentle movement of the rocking chair, I learned to breathe slowly and deeply. And as my breaths became calm and steady, my body and mind relaxed. Like magic, Baby’s breathing would begin to mimic mine; and soon, he’d peacefully drift to sleep.

FOCUS TWO: POSTURE

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Being aware of the way we hold our bodies when we run is also a big deal, particularly when it comes to preventing injuries. Once I decided to get a little more serious about running, I started to focus on technique and make adjustments. Checking out articles like this helped me to see and fix what I was doing wrong. One of the first things I noticed was that my shoulders tend to scrunch up to my ears and I tend to lean over while I run. I learned to change my posture by relaxing my shoulders and standing straight like a puppet on a string as I moved. These, coupled with changes in arm swim and stride have helped my running be more efficient and enjoyable.

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Paying attention to body posture in parenting is important, too. It’s easy to forget how much bigger we are than our li’l ones and how imposing we can come across. Just the way we instinctively stand over our kids can shut them down with intimidation when we’re actually trying to get them to open up and listen. Imagine what it might feel like to be told what to what to do by (even a gentle) King Kong. OK, I’m not trying to suggest that moms look like big hairy beasts, but our size and height can be just as overwhelming to a child, particularly when our arms are waving and our voices are raised. Research shows that intimidated tots can’t focus on a parent’s words when their brain is busy fighting fear and uncertainty. (For more on how children’s brains work, check out one of my favorite books The Whole-Brain Child by Drs. Daniel J Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson).

So instead, if we focus on squatting down to meet our child at eye level and lower our voice, our body language will tell them, “I’m not trying to scare you or even pull a power play on you. I love you, and I respect you.” Making just those minor adjustments can free your child to be more receptive to what you say next.

FOCUS THREE: MIND SET

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Running is a tough sport – both physically and mentally. There’s pain to push past, mind games to conquer, and crazy course conditions that can spring out of nowhere. (Not unlike parenting, huh?!) But for me, running’s a sanity saver, and part of its appeal is the challenge of overcoming the mental and physical obstacles I face along the way.

Now, I must confess, there are days when the negatives of running seem to get bigger with every step. If I’m not careful, my mind will turn a tiny mole hill into a mountain of misery, and the next thing I know, I’ll quit trying and walk home. So now, I make every effort to be intentional in focusing on the positive.

What does that look like? Well, when I’m out for a training run, I force my focus away from the negative and hone in on the beauty around me, the lyrics of the worship music filling my ears, and the strength of my legs that are carrying me another mile. During a race, I focus on the spectators cheering from the sidewalks and the local bands playing live music. My legs may be wobbly and my energy may be waning, but with my mind redirected to the positive, I’m able to successfully complete what I set out to accomplish…with a smile on my face.

Strengthening this mental discipline on the road proves to be incredibly helpful in parenting, too. Particularly when it comes to keeping my cool under pressure.

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“What’s the secret to staying calm in the ugly moments of parenting?” This is a question I get quite often in parent workshops. While the answer may not be easy, it IS simple, and I believe it’s worth its weight in gold.

The secret has to to with focus. When our kids make unwise decisions or display crazy amounts of inappropriate behavior, it’s natural to zero in on all that is bad in those situations. But, like a huge, dark storm cloud, our perception of the “terrible/frustrating/annoying” behavior can grow uglier and more ominous until it distorts our entire view. Once that happens, we become blind to all that is good in our kids, which increases our frustration, and ultimately leads to overreacting.

Here are steps to successfully handle the ugly while focusing on the positive.

1. In your mind, separate the child from the child’s undesirable behavior. (Literally visualize the behavior as a separate “entity” from your child. – Like a little purple monster standing next to your child).

2. Remember that this unwanted behavior may seem enormous, but it’s actually tiny hiccup in the life of your child.

3. Zero in on the positive (and more permanent) characteristics of your child, and give a shout out of thanks to God. Such as, “Thank you, God, for this incredible child, she IS a precious gift and I am so blessed to be her mom.” or “Thank you, Lord, for blessing me with this little guy in front of me – help me to remember that he IS fun loving and gracious 99.9% of the time.” And keep those “positive anchor thoughts” foremost in your mind.

4. Now team up with your child to come up with a plan to get rid of the ugly behavior and prevent it from coming back. (Try saying something like, “I love you so much. And I can see that you are very angry at your little sister right now because she messed up your room. I would be mad too, but hitting is not the answer. Let’s see if we can come up with a better way to tell your sister how you feel.”)

Staying calm and relatively positive in the midst of misbehavior can make all the difference in the world…both in short and long term. The key is learning to put things in perspective and intentionally focus on what’s really important. It takes practice, but it’s a great habit to get into.

Wrap Up

Taking time to be in tune with ourselves is essential to good parenting. When we are having a great day, it’s so important to celebrate all that’s going right!  But when we are aren’t feeling quite ourselves or we seem to hit the same road block over and over, we need to step back and take a look at what’s going on. Running has helped me to be more mindful of my mind and body when I’m alone, challenging myself to go a little farther or a little faster than I had before. Those same skills can be applied to parenting, when we are in the company of little people and the conditions are a wee more complicated. So for sake of my sanity, and to keep my mind sharp, I keep on running.

Question: What about you? Where do you focus best?  When was the last time you really took time to get in tune with you? If you haven’t done that lately, I encourage you to take the time soon. I bet your family will be happy you did! You can leave a comment by clicking here.

Making Homework S.I.M.P.L.E.

 

Homework may be a fact of life, but it doesn’t have to be an endless source of tears and frustration.

You can prevent homework battles and set your child up for a lifetime of success by taking simple steps to develop great habits from the beginning.

 

Here’s How to Make Homework S.I.M.P.L.E.

SUPPORT YOUR CHILD WITH THE BASICS

  1. After school, offer a healthy (low sugar, protein/carb combo) snack for refueling. Cheese sticks and whole wheat crackers, a banana with peanut butter, smoothies, and sandwich meat rolled in a tortilla are some of our favorites. 
  2. Allow 20-30 minutes of individualized “unwind time” before hitting the books. This can look different for each child. While Julie may escape to a quiet spot alone, Jake may race off to climb trees and shout at neighbors. When in doubt, look to their behavior to tell you what they need.
  3. Create a study environment that matches personal learning styles. Some kinesthetic (hands on) learners need a snack while they are working, some think better while chewing gum. Some kids work better alone in a quiet room, while others prefer listening to music in the busy kitchen. Play Goldilocks with different options until you get the right fit.

IDENTIFY THE WORK TO BE TACKLED

  • Ask your child to read and explain each assignment to you.
  • Are the directions clear?
  • Did the necessary books and papers make it home?
  • Does your child need help writing down and organizing assignments?

If there are too many missing pieces, a teacher conference may be just the remedy.

MOTIVATE WITH A NATURAL REWARD

Inspired by Love and Logic, here’s my go-to, empowering statement: “Feel free to (insert favorite after-school activity here) as soon as your homework is finished.” If an argument ensues, “I’ll be happy to discuss that after you do your homework,” can be helpful too.

PRIORITIZE

Teach your child to prioritize multiple tasks by asking leading questions.

Would you like to tackle the hardest subject first or warm up with an easier one?”

This book report is too complicated to complete in one night. How can you break it down into smaller pieces?” Create a calendar with due dates and milestones and post in a prominent location (like the bathroom mirror) as a visual reminder.

LOVE YOUR CHILD ALWAYS, BUT REJECT INAPPROPRIATE BEHAVIOR

If study frustrations lead to a flaring temper, show empathy while setting clear boundaries.

I can see how frustrated you are about that tough math problem. I’ll be glad to help you as soon as you lower your voice and sit back down.”

Invite them to walk around or sip on a glass of water to reset their mental state. One thing is guaranteed: little to no homework will get done until the brain willingly re-engages in the process. 

ENCOURAGE

Be genuine and praise specific behaviors. “Good Job!” is not nearly as encouraging as, “I noticed you kept trying even when that problem seemed impossible earlier. I’m proud of you for sticking with it and finishing the assignment!”

An ounce of prevention …

Taking time now to establish good habits and a positive attitude will pay off in buckets down the road. Just keep it SIMPLE.

Question: Do you have a favorite homework strategy? We’d love to hear about it! You can leave a comment by clicking here.

Becoming a More Confident Mom

There is nothing like motherhood to make even the strongest, most successful, well-educated woman feel inadequate and clueless at times. That’s because there is nothing on Earth that can fully prepare a mom to raise a child of her own. Sure, having a teenage babysitting gig or growing up with a younger sibling might offer a glimpse into what it takes, but it’s not until a mom is blessed with the ultimate gift of a son or daughter that the reality of awesome responsibility is felt.

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Motherhood keeps us on our toes both literally and figuratively. Every child and every situation is so unique, chances are, we’ll all lose confidence one time or another. But the farther we fall into the pit of uncertainty, the messier our parenting can become. The trick is to embrace a Can Do attitude. We don’t have to know all the answers. We just have to be willing to try new approaches and make mistakes, ultimately finding what works best for our family. Sure, that may be easier said than done, especially if we try to go it alone.

The amazing news is none of us have to go it alone. Ever.

Our greatest source of strength can be found in God. All we have to do is ask. (A simple “Lord, please help me” will do!) Truth be told, it’s not always been easy for Li’l Ms Independent me to remember this, but I have learned to rely on the Lord, particularly when fear and frustration try to worm their way into my parenting. And the more I lean on Him for my strength, the more confident I become…and the less often I mess up.

Here are some other lessons I’ve learned (often the hard way) about confidence in parenting.

Weak Mom – Strong Mom:

When my confidence level is low I tend to yell at my kids to try to prove I’m in charge.
When my kids don’t want to listen to a thing I have to say or honor a request I’ve made a zillion times, I start to question my authority. To reestablish power, I yell. Ironically, as soon as I begin yelling, my kids roll their eyes and mutter to each other, “Mom’s losing it again.” And of course that does wonders for my already floundering ego.

A more confident approach:
When I take a deep breath and speak in a firm but quiet voice, my kids actually listen to me and take me seriously. There may be a storm brewing in my gut, but my calm outward appearance says, “Hey, I’m serious here. Let’s talk.”

Sometimes it takes every fiber in my being to keep my adrenaline floodgates closed. But it’s just like pacing in a race. Instead of sprinting out of the gate and dying before Mile 1, I find a consistent speed that will take me all the way to the finish line.

When my confidence level is low, I may tell my kids “yes” when I should say “no.”
Let’s face it, who likes to be the bad guy? It takes confidence to tell my child he is NOT allowed to watch the latest rated R movie that ALL his friends are seeing. When confidence is too weak to say, “No,” Mommy Guilt muscles in to say, “Yes.”

A more confident approach:
When I lovingly but firmly give solid explanations for banning a movie in our house, my kids seem more receptive to my decision. I empathize with their frustration in being the only kids on the planet who are not allowed to see it, and I recognize that my verdict isn’t going to be liked. But when I state my reasons confidently, and I show a little love, I preserve our relationship without sacrificing my better judgment.

Mommy Guilt has the power to plant doubt in my decision making ability by tugging on my emotional heartstrings. But when I choose to ignore its lies and hold firmly to truth based in sound reasoning, I’m able to set healthy boundaries without unraveling.

When my confidence level is low, I’m more likely to not follow through.
When kids make bad choices, they need to be held accountable for their actions. Parents make great accountants when they have the confidence to do the job. Let’s say my son’s excessive cell phone usage leads him to losing phone privileges for a week, but three days into the ban, I cave into his pleading puppy-dog eyes, and give the phone back. What does this teach?

That his mom loves him soooo much?

Maybe.

That his mom is a big softie, can be manipulated, and really isn’t that serious about accountability?

Probably.

A more confident approach:
When I love my child through the consequence without giving in, it’s like a spoon full of sugar helping the medicine go down. I try to say something like this:

“I know it stinks to lose your phone for the week. I don’t like taking it away. Next Monday you may have it back, and I bet you’ll never exceed your data usage again.”

If the begging continues, I simply say, “You will have your phone back Monday. But if the begging continues, I will add another week.”

Once I see a look of resignation on my child’s face, I say, “Thank you.” Then I redirect to something more pleasant by offering a snack or asking who won last night’s basketball game. Belaboring the point is like sprinkling salt on the wound. There’s no benefit in that.

The trick is to clearly identify the target that’s being set, lock it in, and keep your eyes on that milestone  until it has been accomplished. When our eyes are set firmly on a goal, it’s much harder to be led astray.

Wrapping Up

It takes guts to be an effective mom. Luckily, confidence is something that can be learned and strengthened over time. So get out there, pace yourself, push thoughts of doubt away, and keep your eyes focused on the Finish. You CAN do this!

I’m cheering for you!

Question: What gives you the confidence to make tough choices or face challenging days? I’d love to hear from you! You can leave a comment by clicking here.

Becoming a More Confident Runner

It took me a long time to learn to run with confidence. Convinced I was the slowest runner on the planet, and that my gait resembled a newborn goat, I’d run incognito with dark sunglasses and a ball cap pulled low. I eventually adopted better form and embraced my 11 minute mile pace which helped my confidence level until I experienced the fears of my first 5K. Each time, I found that a lack of confidence can lead to big mistakes.

Run with Confidence

My solution? Keep running!

For every run that poses a threat to my self confidence, an opportunity for growth emerges. I still have much to learn about the sport and about myself, but I’m far more confident than I was in the beginning. What’s even more amazing to me is how the assurance I’ve gained as a runner has spilled over into other aspects of my life. Particularly parenting. For more on that, please check out Becoming a More Confident Mom.

Back to running: With hopes that you’ll be able to learn from some of my mistakes, here are three lessons I learned in my not-so-sure-footed days:

one

During my first race, I tried to conceal looking like an awkward rookie by starting out fast and powerful. (Need I mention that this is one of the biggest mistakes most rookies make?) Of course, after just about two hundred meters, I was gasping for air, grinding to a crawl and watching my earlier road kills fly past me with ease.

I later learned that there’s nothing wrong with being a rookie – runner, jogger, walker…everyone starts somewhere! The secret to running a great race is to run it at your personal pace. A spectator sign at the beginning of the 2015 Austin Aramco Half Marathon confirmed this for me. It simply read Find Your Happy Pace. It’s in my happy pace that I find my smile and all the confidence I need to run My Race.

two

I’m a pro at doubting my abilities as an athlete. And that does not bode well for the old adage “Running is 90 percent mental and the rest is physical.” While that percentage may not be completely accurate, it does take huge mental strength to overcome the fear and apprehension that can lead to quitting.

When I run, my whiny, inner child sometimes tries to cling to my ankles and drag me down. Luckily, my firm but loving, inner drill sergeant knows how to loosen the grip.

Their struggle in my mind sounds something like this: 

Inner child:  “Can I just slow down and walk now?” (whined to the tune of “Are we there yet?”)

Drill Sergeant:  “No.” (simply stated and with authority)

Inner Child:  “Why not? I’m gonna die!!”

Drill Sergeant:  “You are not going to die. You did twice this distance last week…with hills! You CAN do this! Stop sniveling. Think of how great you’ll feel after the race!”

Running has given me the confidence to not only overcome the wimpy voices that tell me, “I can’t,” it’s helped me better defend against the real life complaints of my kids. Armed with logical, objective proof of my abilities, I can now leave doubt in the dust without ever looking back.

three

In my early days of running, (and even today, if I’m not careful), I’d halfheartedly commit to running three or four miles and then head out. By the end of the first mile, if I was in any kind of discomfort, I’d find a fabulous excuse to end by mile two. My lack of accountability ultimately resulted in weaker training days and gobs of regret.

Today, I commit wholeheartedly to a distance goal ahead of time and tenaciously go after it. If it turns out to be a particularly bad running day, I may slow my pace, but I’m much more likely to follow through with the distance no matter the discomfort. Not only has this taught me to finish what I begin, it’s also helped me hold my kids accountable for their choices. I’m better at empathizing with their discomfort, but more than ever, I understand the importance of seeing things through to completion.

I’m still learning to overcome the mental and physical obstacles in running. But with each new challenge, I grow stronger and more sure of myself both as a runner and as a mom

Question: How does running boost your confidence? Come on, I dare you to share! 🙂 You can leave a comment by clicking here.