Becoming a Personal Best Mom

If anyone’s counting, I’ve messed up 3 1/2 times this morning, and it’s not even 7:45 AM.

1. I lost my cool with my extra groggy, snail’s paced, running late teenager. (A lovely way to begin a Monday).
2. Against my better judgement, I re-reminded my 7th grader to bring me his reading log for signing. (So much for teaching personal responsibility).
3. I overcooked the oatmeal (again!), burning a thick, brown cement coating onto the pan. (The kid who has dish duty today is NOT going to be a happy camper).
3 1/2. And I lost my car keys while we were frantically leaving for school. I found them after only 15 seconds of searching, but I panicked during the search and let an “undesirable” escape my mouth. Thus the 1/2 point penalty.

I used to think that after 15 years of being a mom, I’d have this gig down to perfection. But I learned the hard way that reaching perfection is impossible, unnecessary and a recipe for failure, guilt and disappointment.

Perfection is Overrated

Trying to be the perfect mom is kind of like trying to look like an air-brushed, digitally enhanced magazine model. Just because she’s gorgeous on the cover, doesn’t mean she’s flawless in real life. Perfect parenting is unattainable, and the farther from flawless I fall, the more irritated I become. So instead of striving for the impossible, I now aim for Personal Best (PB), where even small victories are worth celebrating and mistakes become prime learning opportunities. With my fresh perspective, here’s my takeaway from this morning:

  • I’ll apologize to my groggy teen for getting crabby with him (modeling humility while I’m at it).
  • I’ll make a better effort to let my kids take personal responsibility for waking up and being prepared for class. (And I’ll find ways to show love without rescuing or enabling).
  • I’ll celebrate that it didn’t take me a year to find my keys and that I didn’t completely lose my mind while scrambling for them. (Yea, Mom!)
  • And, I’ll finally set a timer to remind me to stir the darn oatmeal.

I’m never going to be perfect, and I’m tired of making myself crazy trying. Striving for Personal Best helps me get closer than I ever imagined. And that is a beautiful place to be!

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Question:  Can you relate to trying to be the “perfect parent”? What would “Personal Best” look like for you?     You can leave a comment by clicking here.

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2 thoughts on “Becoming a Personal Best Mom

  1. Great concept: striving for PB! (Of course, I’ll have to retrain my mind to see PB as Personal Best and not Peanut Butter – one of my favorite foods on the planet!) Struggling for perfection was something that wore me out in my younger days of parenting – heck in my younger days, period! But you are so right, letting go of that silly notion that I can be perfect and instead focusing on doing my best and constantly striving to learn from my mistakes is a much happier, healthier way to live. Love your website and I’m looking forward to your blog posts!

    • Laura, so great to hear from you, and I truly appreciate your wise perspective as a mom who’s survived the toddler/elementary school years, too! As for the Peanut Butter, well, that was my refuel of choice during those hectic years. A heaping spoonful would give me the recharge I needed to make it to the next meal. I may need to write a post about that…