Becoming a More Confident Runner

It took me a long time to learn to run with confidence. Convinced I was the slowest runner on the planet, and that my gait resembled a newborn goat, I’d run incognito with dark sunglasses and a ball cap pulled low. I eventually adopted better form and embraced my 11 minute mile pace which helped my confidence level until I experienced the fears of my first 5K. Each time, I found that a lack of confidence can lead to big mistakes.

My solution? Keep running!

For every run that poses a threat to my self confidence, an opportunity for growth emerges. I still have much to learn about the sport and about myself, but I’m far more confident than I was in the beginning. What’s even more amazing to me is how the assurance I’ve gained as a runner has spilled over into other aspects of my life. Particularly parenting. For more on that, please check out Becoming a More Confident Mom.

Back to running: With hopes that you’ll be able to learn from some of my mistakes, here are three lessons I learned in my not-so-sure-footed days:


During my first race, I tried to conceal looking like an awkward rookie by starting out fast and powerful. (Need I mention that this is one of the biggest mistakes most rookies make?) Of course, after just about two hundred meters, I was gasping for air, grinding to a crawl and watching my earlier road kills fly past me with ease.

I later learned that there’s nothing wrong with being a rookie – runner, jogger, walker…everyone starts somewhere! The secret to running a great race is to run it at your personal pace. A spectator sign at the beginning of the 2015 Austin Aramco Half Marathon confirmed this for me. It simply read Find Your Happy Pace. It’s in my happy pace that I find my smile and all the confidence I need to run My Race.


I’m a pro at doubting my abilities as an athlete. And that does not bode well for the old adage “Running is 90 percent mental and the rest is physical.” While that percentage may not be completely accurate, it does take huge mental strength to overcome the fear and apprehension that can lead to quitting.

When I run, my whiny, inner child sometimes tries to cling to my ankles and drag me down. Luckily, my firm but loving, inner drill sergeant knows how to loosen the grip.

Their struggle in my mind sounds something like this: 

Inner child:  “Can I just slow down and walk now?” (whined to the tune of “Are we there yet?”)

Drill Sergeant:  “No.” (simply stated and with authority)

Inner Child:  “Why not? I’m gonna die!!”

Drill Sergeant:  “You are not going to die. You did twice this distance last week…with hills! You CAN do this! Stop sniveling. Think of how great you’ll feel after the race!”

Running has given me the confidence to not only overcome the wimpy voices that tell me, “I can’t,” it’s helped me better defend against the real life complaints of my kids. Armed with logical, objective proof of my abilities, I can now leave doubt in the dust without ever looking back.


In my early days of running, (and even today, if I’m not careful), I’d halfheartedly commit to running three or four miles and then head out. By the end of the first mile, if I was in any kind of discomfort, I’d find a fabulous excuse to end by mile two. My lack of accountability ultimately resulted in weaker training days and gobs of regret.

Today, I commit wholeheartedly to a distance goal ahead of time and tenaciously go after it. If it turns out to be a particularly bad running day, I may slow my pace, but I’m much more likely to follow through with the distance no matter the discomfort. Not only has this taught me to finish what I begin, it’s also helped me hold my kids accountable for their choices. I’m better at empathizing with their discomfort, but more than ever, I understand the importance of seeing things through to completion.

I’m still learning to overcome the mental and physical obstacles in running. But with each new challenge, I grow stronger and more sure of myself both as a runner and as a mom

Question: How does running boost your confidence? Come on, I dare you to share! 🙂 You can leave a comment by clicking here.

Triathlon Packing List

Race Prep and Packing List 

  1. The day before a race, place a towel on your bedroom or living room floor and set up a mock Transition Area with the items listed below.
  2. Separate the items you’ll be packing from the *items you’ll be wearing/bringing.
  3. Check off the items as you pack them.


o   *Pre-race bar or sandwich/breakfast (this will depend upon what and when you choose to eat before the race)

o   *Tri suit or swim suit (with whatever else you want to wear to run/bike in)

o   *Sunglasses

o   *Water bottles (one for bike, one for transition to squirt on dirty feet while putting on shoes)

o   *Cell phone

o   *Flip flops (If there is a rocky walk to the start of the swim area, consider wearing disposable flops to leave at the water’s edge before the race)

o   *Map and directions to the race and of the race/race registration papers

o   *i Pod loaded with race tunes (If the race allows you to use one. Some plug in one ear bud so they can hear instructions/warning/other racers with the free ear)

o   *Watch/heart rate monitor


o   Swim cap

o   Goggles

o   Bike helmet

o   Bike shoes (if you have clips on your bike pedals, otherwise, you won’t need these extra shoes)

o   Running shoes

o   Socks 

o   Towel (spread out in transition area for drying feet during shoe changes)

o   Long, bright, cloth ribbon (to tie on the bike rack near your stuff)

o   Masking tape (see next item)

o   Protein bar/Gu/Shot blocks (to tape to bike for bike leg)

o   Hat to run in

o   Sunscreen (apply before the race)

o   T-shirt (to wear after the race)

o   Long sleeve shirt (to bike in if chilly day)

o   Toilet paper or a few tissues (just in case the porta potties are out)

o   Race/bib number 

o   Race belt (or safety pins) (for the bib number)

o   Permanent black marker (to avoid long lines at body marking station)

o   Excedrin or Motrin (in case of post race aches and pains)

o   Tampons (if needed)

o   Deodorant

o   Body wipes (for post race)


  • Bike
  • Small Bike Saddle that fits under the seat and contains:
    • Replacement bike tube  (in case you get a flat)
    • CO2 Pump and Cartridge (to air up the new tube)
    • Tire tool to change a flat (a bike store can set you up with all the essentials of a flat tire kit)
  • Bike pump
  • Plastic bag to cover seat (if it’s raining, I cover the bike seat for the drive on the back of my car to and from the race)

Have A Great Race!!!